Mastering Your Inner Voice
How to Recognise It, Understand It and Change It
What do you say about yourself behind closed doors, in the safety of your own mind?
Often, it’s things we’d never say out loud.
“I’m not enough.”
“I always get this wrong.”
“I don’t deserve more than this.”
These quiet, repetitive thoughts make up our inner voice - and many of them are rooted in what we call limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs are not flaws. They are learned. Formed through experience, upbringing, culture, moments of hurt or failure. And if left to run unchecked, they can subtly block progress in love, money, confidence, relationships and career - without us ever realising they’re in charge.
Why Your Inner Voice Matters More Than You Think
Your inner dialogue is not just background noise - it influences how you show up, what you go for, what you tolerate and what you avoid.
When your inner voice is harsh or fearful:
You play smaller than you’re capable of
You self-sabotage opportunities
You second-guess decisions
You settle, rather than stretch
When it’s supportive and regulated, something shifts. You move with more clarity, courage and self-trust.
A Simple (Not Simplistic) Way to Start Working With It
It’s important to say this clearly:
This is a simple way of looking at inner voice work, not an easy one.
Limiting beliefs can be deeply ingrained - part of your very make-up. For many people, they’ve been running the show for decades. Acknowledging them can be uncomfortable. Shifting them takes time, consistency and compassion.
But when these inner voices are no longer serving you, it becomes essential to work with them - gently, not forcefully.
Here’s a starting framework:
1. Notice Without Judgement
Begin by observing your inner voice. What does it say when things feel hard? When you fail? When you succeed? Awareness always comes first.
2. Name the Belief
Put words to it:
“I’m not capable.”
“I don’t deserve more.”
“I’ll be found out.”
Naming it creates distance - this is something you have, not something you are.
3. Question the Story
Ask yourself:
Is this objectively true?
Where did this belief come from?
Is it helping or protecting me - or holding me back?
4. Introduce a New, Kinder Narrative
Not forced positivity - just truth with compassion:
“I am learning.”
“I am allowed to take up space.”
“I can grow beyond this.”
5. Practice (Again and Again)
These voices didn’t form overnight - and they won’t disappear overnight either. Change happens through repetition, reflection, and regulation.
Why Starting Sooner Matters
The sooner you begin noticing and working with your inner voice, the sooner you create space for:
Healthier relationships
Stronger boundaries
More confidence around money and worth
Decisions that align with who you’re becoming
Small shifts in self-talk create big ripple effects over time.
Where MOCO Coaching Fits Into This Work
At MOCO Coaching, this work sits at the heart of everything we do.
We don’t aim to “fix” you - because you’re not broken.
We help you:
Understand where your inner voice came from
Learn how your nervous system responds under pressure
Create safety before change
Gently rewire beliefs that no longer serve you
Through coaching, reflection and nervous system regulation, we support you in building a more compassionate, regulated relationship with yourself - so your inner voice becomes an ally, not a barrier.
This isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about returning to who you already are - without the noise.
Final Thought
Your inner voice is powerful.
It can quietly limit you - or deeply support you.
Working with it is not a quick fix. It’s a practice.
And every time you choose awareness over autopilot, kindness over criticism, you move closer to a life that feels more aligned, spacious and true.
If your inner voice is asking for something different - MOCO Coaching is here to support you.